How to help your child make friends with peers

Some universal tips to help your child make friends and teach him how to maintain friendships:

Psychological preparation.
Monitoring the cohesion of the children’s team.
Friendship rules.
Active search for friends.

Let’s consider each item in more detail.

Psychological preparation
If no one is friends with a child, this is an occasion to observe how he behaves among children and Whether he hides in a corner or vice versa – he is active, suppresses, imposes his opinion. In any case, this information will help you get an objective picture and outline a plan of action.

There are many ways to teach a child to be friends. For example, play therapy. This is modeling and discussion with the child of situations that may arise in the process of friendly communication.

Courses on the development of emotional intelligence will be useful. Sometimes you can not do without the help of a psychologist. You can help your child yourself using manuals and books on developmental psychology and the development of emotional intelligence.

Monitoring the cohesion of the children’s team
Our children often behave differently in a team than they do at home. And this is the main reason for the misinterpretation of the reasons why no one is friends with the child in the class.

Chat with the teacher – he will tell you how things really are and what is Due to his experience and the ability to observe children without parental intervention, he can point out your child’s shortcomings, as well as suggest how to correct them.

You can also involve a school psychologist who, using psychological tests and diagnostic games, will monitor the cohesion of the children’s team. This will help you take a holistic view of the problem and enlist the support of other parents who are also interested in their children being comfortable in the classroom.

Friendship Rules
Play with your child the dialogues that he has with his peers. Gently explain what mistakes he made.

Tell us about the basic rules of friendship: mutual respect, consideration of interests, support and pleasant communication. Together look for topics that your child is well versed in and that may be of interest to his potential friends. Let him know his strengths – so he can enter into a dialogue in time and interest other children with his knowledge.

Active search for friends
Another way to help your child make friends is to try to find children with similar interests. But it works only for a certain age category – from 3 to 7 years. Older children already choose their own friends, so your intervention in this process should be minimal.

It’s a good idea to be friends with your friends’ kids.

Surely you meet regularly, celebrate some holidays together. Let the children practice the skill of making friends in your company. This is a safe environment, so the child will be more liberated and will be able to show his best side.

Arrange gatherings, theme parties at home. Try to invite several children to them – from those with whom the child is not yet friends, but would like to make friends.


Do not let the problem of your child’s lack of friends take its course. He will grow up without them, but the ability to create and maintain social connections will help him a lot in adulthood.

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